Archive for July, 2010

The Blame and Shame Game

The Blame and Shame Game - Cheryl Woolstone Counselling Blog

Pointing fingers doesn’t help.

“Whenever you are pointing your finger at someone, notice that there are always three fingers pointing back at you.”

Great quote! Keep this visual in mind next time you find yourself lapsing into making excuses and blaming others for your choices.

Stop and ask yourself, “What is it that I am unwilling to be responsible for in this situation?” Read more »

Empathy - Please Take Your Shoes Off

Empathy: Please Take Your Shoes Off - Cheryl Woolstone Counselling Blog

Take your shoes off and transform your relationship

Taking your shoes off means that you have to suspend your world view, cross over the bridge into your partner’s world and imagine what they might be feeling.

All you can do is guess. It is the intention to try and understand what your partner is experiencing that makes the impact. Read more »

Closed Heart, Fixed Agenda

Closed Heart - Fixed Agenda - Cheryl Woolstone Counselling Blog

You can be right or you can be in relationship:

Take your pick.

Let go of the attachment of being right and suddenly your mind is more open. You can benefit from the unique viewpoints of others without being crippled and limited by your own judgment.

When we move away from the need to be right and the necessity to have our perspective dominate the relationship then we are ready to learn the art of validation. Read more »

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