It’s Your Mother’s Fault
Monday, November 21st, 2011
How quickly do you bounce back from a fight?
Do you transition easily back into connection or do you find yourself acting like a wilful toddler? Read more »
Posts Tagged ‘Change’
Move Past A “Rotten” Childhood
Monday, September 26th, 2011
Get a new story, no victim mentality.
Check out this article, 7 Best Pieces of Advice For People Who Want To Move Past A Rotten Childhood, by Tracy McMillan, writer for the hit TV series, Mad Men.
Ms. McMillan is no stranger to difficulty with a father with spent most of his time in jail and a prostitute mother who abandoned her. Her advice is brilliant and right to the point.
Unplug And Re-Connect
Monday, August 15th, 2011
How is technology affecting your relationship?
Are you distracted, impatient and more interested in your friends on Facebook or Twitter than your partner or family?
Attachment to our Blackberries, iPhones, Facebook, and Twitter are a source of hurt and frustration between couples. Read more »
Say Goodbye to Resentment
Monday, July 18th, 2011
“Resentment is the poison you swallow hoping the other person will die.”
This graphic quote from actress Carrie Fisher, reminds us that we are hurting ourselves when we resent another person, and we are giving them control over our emotional state.
Want to loosen the grip of resentment and embrace forgiveness, here are some ideas… Read more »
Should You Stay or Go?
Monday, May 23rd, 2011
Relationship decisions can be agonizing.
Deciding whether or not to keep trying is hard, particularly when there are children involved.
Should You Stay or Should You Go? a Huffington Post article by Christine Carter PhD, describes four types of relationship problems in an attempt to simplify the decision-making process.
Check out her article, it may help you make sense of your situation.
Personal Power
Monday, May 16th, 2011
Would you rather feel powerful or be powerful?
When it comes to our relationships there is a world of difference between these two experiences.
To feel powerful people often resort to manipulation and coercion.
To be powerful is to come from a position of self-knowledge and be able to regulate your emotions.
Clients enter into therapy because they feel powerless in some area of their life. Read more »
Zero Negativity
Monday, April 25th, 2011
Can you eliminate all shame, blame and criticism?
Are you addicted to negativity? Are you a fault-finder or a love-finder? Read more »
Are You A Flake?
Monday, April 11th, 2011
Check out this irreverent, smart article by Sonia Simone:
The Complete Flake’s Guide To Getting Things Done
So many of my clients identify themselves as “stuck”, unable to follow through on their ideas, dreams and passions. Big dreamers, poor executors and as a result little confidence and low self esteem.
Learn from Sonia how to stop the “Flaky” and become proud and productive.
You Change First - I Insist
Monday, January 3rd, 2011
“Fix Her And Then We Will be Okay.”
Couples often come to counselling with the mistaken notion that if the therapist changes the other person then magically all the problems will disappear.
A shift from right and wrong to an understanding of how relationships are co-created is what IMAGO Relationship Therapy is all about.
Here is what the process of change often looks like. Read more »
Change One Little Word
Monday, December 6th, 2010
It pays to think before you speak.
You can hear and feel the difference between “I need you to pick up your socks” and “You are so #@!! lazy”.
One version is load and shoot and the other is artful diplomacy. The art of speaking so other people listen can be dependent on the change of just one little word.
It is amazing how the choice of a particular word can turn a receptive partner into a defensive, antagonized person. Read more »
