Monday, January 2nd, 2012
Passive – aggression is a deliberate and masked way of expressing covert feelings of anger.
This pattern destroys the integrity of a relationship and is one of the hardest patterns to transform.
Monday, November 21st, 2011
Do you transition easily back into connection or do you find yourself acting like a wilful toddler? Read more »
Monday, August 29th, 2011
Try to win and you will both lose – every time, guaranteed.
There is one simple idea that can transform your relationship: Be more interested in understanding your partner than in winning an argument.
Embrace this principle, save yourself heartache and massive counselling or legal bills. Read more »
Monday, August 15th, 2011
Are you distracted, impatient and more interested in your friends on Facebook or Twitter than your partner or family?
Attachment to our Blackberries, iPhones, Facebook, and Twitter are a source of hurt and frustration between couples. Read more »
Monday, June 20th, 2011
An emotional affair can be as devastating to a relationship as a sexual affair. Secrecy and deception are the deal breakers.
Emotional affairs are easy to deny, you can rationalize that there is no sex involved and keep yourself guilt free.
Check out this article on Oprah’s website, Emotional Affairs 101, for some concrete signs that you are having an emotional affair.
Monday, June 6th, 2011
Here is the catch, you need to be happily married for this to happen! Read more »
Monday, May 30th, 2011
This is really worth the read, particularly if you are contemplating having an affair.
The author, Wendy Plump, explores the impact of an affair from both sides, from her experiences as the cheating spouse and the betrayed lover.
According to Wendy: “You will be pulled between two poles, one of obligation and responsibility, the other of pleasure and escape, and the stress of these two opposing forces will tear you apart.”
Monday, May 16th, 2011
When it comes to our relationships there is a world of difference between these two experiences.
To feel powerful people often resort to manipulation and coercion.
To be powerful is to come from a position of self-knowledge and be able to regulate your emotions.
Clients enter into therapy because they feel powerless in some area of their life. Read more »
Monday, May 9th, 2011
Dr. John Gottman makes the bold statement that he can predict with 95% accuracy whether couples will stay together or not.
His predictions are partly based on the presence of four destructive communication patterns: contempt, criticism, stone-walling and defensiveness. Read more »
Saturday, April 30th, 2011
Check out this powerful documentary about the impact of Bipolar Disorder on the family.
Family Matters, follows the lives of four families as they struggle to cope with the manic highs and devastating depressions of their family member.
Tune in on at 10pm on Tuesday May 3rd, Knowledge Network (Canada).
Monday, April 11th, 2011
So many of my clients identify themselves as “stuck”, unable to follow through on their ideas, dreams and passions. Big dreamers, poor executors and as a result little confidence and low self esteem.
Learn from Sonia how to stop the “Flaky” and become proud and productive.
Monday, April 4th, 2011
Learn about the “Masters” and “Disasters” of relationships.
Check out the article, The Top Five Signs That You Are Headed For Divorce. Watch the videotapes of the research couples demonstrating the behaviours that lead to divorce. Can you see yourself in any of these couples?
Monday, March 28th, 2011
Neuroscientists have found that after a period of 6 months to 2 years the brain stops producing these stimulating chemicals. Read more »
Monday, March 7th, 2011
There are certain habits that differentiate couples that will succeed from couples that are destined to fail.
If you want to be successful you will have to have these interpersonal skills. Read more »
Monday, February 28th, 2011
Do you want to know why your reactions to certain conflicts are way out of range with the actual situation?
Understanding the basics of brain functioning can help you make sense of what is happening in your relationship. Read more »
Monday, January 31st, 2011
You know that you are an optimist when you consider a setback or a disappointment to be temporary and changeable.
Are we born with an optimistic temperament? Or can we learn to live on the sunny side of the street? Read more »
Monday, October 4th, 2010
Approach is showing interest, enjoyment, compassion and care. You turn towards each other.
Avoid means you want to get away from your partner, blow off their perspective or have them shut up. The implication is that the other is not worth your attention.
Attack is an attempt to undermine confidence, to get the other person to agree with you and do what you want. Read more »
